Valentine's Day: To Be or Not to Be?

Enjoy this day of celebration. Some people may see it as an obligation to buy something to punctuate those words, “I Love You.” Instead, consider Valentine’s Day an opportunity to reflect on your own commitment and how to express it. What would happen if you and your partner pondered steps to build and create the intimacy that you both desire?  Would you come up with the same ideas?

It requires a little faith in the strength of your relationship to ask tough questions. What’s missing? What’s challenging? Don’t worry. The desire to make things better gets things moving in the right direction.


In my work with couples and the marital services offered by The Chicago Stress Relief Center, I see how the energy can shift and change. Whether a couple is in synch or throwing barbs at one another, it’s all normal in the evolution of growing as a couple. That’s what people need to appreciate.  Having conflict is not indicative of a dysfunctional marriage. It’s a natural, evolutionary process. Marriage is a people-growing machine. It’s designed to grow people and if they’re not having conflict or challenges then they’re not taking these opportunities to grow, change or evolve.

Have faith and fun as you invest in an open and loving way to achieve the relationship you desire.



Yours in Health~

Dr. Howard K. Weissman, Psy.D., B.C.E.T.S.